Comments on: How am I going to handle the Holidays coming up Alone? http://www.naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/ Your Menopause Questions Answered... Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:33:57 +0000 hourly 1 By: csucdartgirl http://www.naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-260 csucdartgirl Sat, 09 May 2009 11:06:24 +0000 http://naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-260 Stop feeling sorry for yourself. It seems like you continually like to point the finger but never look into yourself for your flaws. - you are blaming the shift in attitude on the dad - you are bitter about your mom not celebrating - your daughter tells lies and borrow money YOU ARE NOT AN ANGEL. Why don't you fess up to your shortcomings and stop pointing fingers? And stop playing the health card....it gets old fast. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. It seems like you continually like to point the finger but never look into yourself for your flaws.

- you are blaming the shift in attitude on the dad
- you are bitter about your mom not celebrating
- your daughter tells lies and borrow money

YOU ARE NOT AN ANGEL. Why don’t you fess up to your shortcomings and stop pointing fingers? And stop playing the health card….it gets old fast.

]]> By: Chaplain Debby http://www.naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-259 Chaplain Debby Fri, 08 May 2009 23:24:12 +0000 http://naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-259 Getting out and about puts some sunshine back in our lives! Before I became an active Minister, I had dark days. Kid problems, a divorce after 25 years!, one son going to war......yup dark days. Holidays are family days, and there are more and more people our age suffering with the same problems. I realize that being on your feet is difficult......have you thought about becoming a "rocker"? Now put that guitar away, I mean rocking a few babies? Hospitals need folks who can give some time to preemies, and babies that are critically ill. Touching these little ones helps heal them, just as touch from a loved one helps us. Helping at a homeless shelter is such a wonderful idea! There too, a little "touch" to those folks goes such a long way! As an RN, taking the hormones will be a great help with all the annoying features of menopause along with the depression. Blessings to you! Chaplain Debby Getting out and about puts some sunshine back in our lives! Before I became an active Minister, I had dark days. Kid problems, a divorce after 25 years!, one son going to war……yup dark days. Holidays are family days, and there are more and more people our age suffering with the same problems. I realize that being on your feet is difficult……have you thought about becoming a “rocker”? Now put that guitar away, I mean rocking a few babies? Hospitals need folks who can give some time to preemies, and babies that are critically ill. Touching these little ones helps heal them, just as touch from a loved one helps us. Helping at a homeless shelter is such a wonderful idea! There too, a little “touch” to those folks goes such a long way!
As an RN, taking the hormones will be a great help with all the annoying features of menopause along with the depression. Blessings to you! Chaplain Debby

]]> By: mosaic http://www.naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-258 mosaic Fri, 08 May 2009 01:02:32 +0000 http://naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-258 My sister and I are the only two left in our family. The rest passed away over the years. We worked at a homeless shelter one year and it was absolutely great. The people are the kindest you'd ever want to meet and it was very rewarding to be doing something that was helpful to someone else. I suggest you do that. I'm sure it will be okay that you sit down every now and then and relax your feet. You absolutely won't regret it! PLUS.. converse with those on yahoo answers who don't have anyone as well. Don't forget.. you can still cook. Either cook up meals and deliver to some elderly people in the area.. bake cookies and deliver to a nursing home.. etc. Even go hand them out to the homeless. You'll be surprised at how this will turn out to be one of your most rewarding years. My sister and I are the only two left in our family. The rest passed away over the years. We worked at a homeless shelter one year and it was absolutely great. The people are the kindest you’d ever want to meet and it was very rewarding to be doing something that was helpful to someone else. I suggest you do that. I’m sure it will be okay that you sit down every now and then and relax your feet. You absolutely won’t regret it! PLUS.. converse with those on yahoo answers who don’t have anyone as well.
Don’t forget.. you can still cook. Either cook up meals and deliver to some elderly people in the area.. bake cookies and deliver to a nursing home.. etc. Even go hand them out to the homeless. You’ll be surprised at how this will turn out to be one of your most rewarding years.

]]> By: Cat Lady http://www.naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-257 Cat Lady Wed, 06 May 2009 14:12:35 +0000 http://naturalmenopause.net/questions/how-am-i-going-to-handle-the-holidays-coming-up-alone/#comment-257 Perhaps there are things you can do at a homeless shelter that do not require you to stand on your feet. Or, inquire at other charitable organizations, they may have some volunteer positions that you can do sitting down. Meantime, I would call my kids and point-blank ask them why they do not want to see me. You say you have been going through menopause for 5 years now? That is a long time. I am surprised you haven't been on HRT long ago. Get your meds NOW. Take them now. You will be amazed at how you feel normal again. Tell your doctor you are depressed, he can prescribe something that will help that also. I am amazed at the number of people who continue to suffer when they can go to their doctor and a simple prescription or two can make a world of difference. I remember one November, I had sinus trouble. I just dragged through the holidays with it, and felt lousy the whole time. After the holidays were over, I went to the doctor and he said I had a low-grade sinus infection, gave me an Rx for antibiotics, and I could feel the difference after a couple of days! After I had dragged myself around for the six weeks prior to that. After that, when I felt bad, I went to the doctor. I am not saying go to the doctor for every papercut, but when you have been depressed and suffering with menopause, you need treatment. Go get it now. Perhaps there are things you can do at a homeless shelter that do not require you to stand on your feet. Or, inquire at other charitable organizations, they may have some volunteer positions that you can do sitting down.

Meantime, I would call my kids and point-blank ask them why they do not want to see me. You say you have been going through menopause for 5 years now? That is a long time. I am surprised you haven’t been on HRT long ago. Get your meds NOW. Take them now. You will be amazed at how you feel normal again. Tell your doctor you are depressed, he can prescribe something that will help that also.

I am amazed at the number of people who continue to suffer when they can go to their doctor and a simple prescription or two can make a world of difference.

I remember one November, I had sinus trouble. I just dragged through the holidays with it, and felt lousy the whole time. After the holidays were over, I went to the doctor and he said I had a low-grade sinus infection, gave me an Rx for antibiotics, and I could feel the difference after a couple of days! After I had dragged myself around for the six weeks prior to that. After that, when I felt bad, I went to the doctor.

I am not saying go to the doctor for every papercut, but when you have been depressed and suffering with menopause, you need treatment.

Go get it now.

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